Raw Honesty in Prayer

03 Jun

When we read Psalms, there are times sections when we struggle with the content.  Imprecatory Psalms are those that invoke judgment, desire calamity or pronounce a curse on someone.  They are often vengeful and appear void of grace and mercy.  One example of these challenging sections is Psalm 137:8-9:

O daughter of Babylon, doomed to be destroyed,

    blessed shall he be who repays you

    with what you have done to us!

Blessed shall he be who takes your little ones

    and dashes them against the rock!

How do we understand these passages, and what do we learn from them?

Psalms as Prayers

We must first understand the nature of the Psalms.  Each one is a response to God.  As the psalmist experiences things in life, he responds to God in different ways. There are psalms of lament, psalms of praise, and psalms that cover a wide range of experiences and emotions.  

Consider the first part of Psalm 137.  The people of Judah are in captivity after the Babylonian invasion.  Zion is Jerusalem – their capital – a place where the glory of God was displayed among God’s people as a testimony to the nations around.  Falling into the hands of the Babylonians was more than just a military failure, their identity and hope were lost.  This event was God’s judgment on his people.

For the Babylonians, the mighty God of Israel had fallen to their gods.  They boast in verse 3 as they request songs from their captives about the glory of Zion.  They are asking for praise songs of God – they are taunting their prisoners – “Where are your songs of how great Zion is now?  You were deceived!  Where is your God?”  That is why the people of Israel have hung their harps on the trees.  Do they have reason to sing?

The psalmist turns to God amid these circumstances.  The prayer is honest and pours forth from the anger, hurt, and disappointment that weave in, around, and through the heart.  There is a desire for the enemy to pay for what has happened to the people of Israel.  Psalm 137 is a raw and honest prayer.  

We often forget that God knows what is in our hearts.  He knows the desired vengeance, the anger, or any other festering emotion.  When we come to the throne of God, we can be sincere, because of God’s knowledge of our heart, mind, and soul.  He is the one we turn toward and before whom we lay all of our vileness – God is the only one that can handle it.  He is the only one who brings the remedy for such heinous thoughts through the atonement of Christ.

Prayer becomes an Encounter

The act of praying, even such a vile thought, is an act of faith because we seek God during the prayer. We desire to comprehend life’s circumstances, and through prayer, the psalmist acknowledges that God is the only genuine source of understanding.  

As we read Psalm 137, we do not see God’s response to this prayer.  We are left with only one side of a conversation.  Therefore, we judge the final verses as inhumane and evil, never getting to see the encounter the psalmist sought.  Perhaps the one-sided conversation does not bother us, because we consider prayer to be a one-voice conversation?

When we approach the throne of God, we should not desire him to do anything other than change our hearts. We cannot trust the wants that we lay before his throne, but we can trust the one who sits on the throne.  It is for this reason we come – wanting more of him.  We want to see things the way he sees them and walk faithfully through every experience. This aspect of the prayer found in Psalm 137 is absent.  However, if we turn to Psalm 37, we see a clearer picture.

“Fret not yourself because of evildoers; be not envious of wrongdoers!”  Psalm 37:1 reads as though it is a response to Psalm 137.  In our raw and honest prayers, we know that we have encountered God when we arise from our knees with five changes of the heart seen in Psalm 37:3-8.

  • Trust (v 3) – We trust that God has us where we are for a specific reason and His glory.  In our act of trust, we continue to walk faithfully through the desire of our heart may try to lead us astray.
  • Delight (v 4) – As we delight in the Lord, he becomes our desire.  As we gaze into his grace and mercy, the things of this world grow pale and dim.  The circumstances that surround us lose their gravity in the light of God’s glory.
  • Commit (v 5) – Our profession of trust must have action.  If we truly trust God in our current circumstances, we will commit to his ways and desire to walk in them.
  • Be Still (v 7) – We stand in awe of the overwhelming majesty of God the Father.  Though we might enter prayer overwhelmed by our circumstances, we leave our time of prayer shaken but strengthened by the holy and just God that provided salvation in Jesus Christ.  
  • Refrain (v 8) – We stop. The anger and envy that controlled our heart as we knelt to pray are conquered by our desire to trust in, delight in, commit to, and be still before God.  We put to death the sinful desires of our heart through the power and presence of the Holy Spirit.

I pray that as you approach the throne of God, you will not only seek to speak, but you will desire to hear.  Be honest before him.  As you pour out your heart to God, I pray you will find that he changes your heart in accord to who he is.   May your prayers not only be one-sided conversations but encounters with the Creator.


Posted by on June 3, 2019 in Christian Living


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5 responses to “Raw Honesty in Prayer

  1. Alycia Reynolds

    June 5, 2019 at 7:58 am

    Wow! This is really powerful! I think so many times we make it a one-sided conversation and chose not to listen or wait to listen to what God wants us to hear.

  2. Bill Mueller

    June 25, 2019 at 3:22 am

    Very thoughtful post except one thing- where you say when we approach the throne of grace we should ask anything except the Lord changing our hearts. That’s not correct. Consider the Lord’s Prayer- “give us this day our daily bread.” The Lord delights in blessing his people with their material needs, and what “changes our hearts” is the recognition the man doesn’t live by bread alone.

    Like I stated- excellent post- but you went to far.

    • Pastor Chas

      June 25, 2019 at 10:24 am

      Bill, thank you for your comment! I appreciate your response and am thankful for people that help me hone my thoughts. For the sake of furthering the discussion, I did not write “when we approach the throne of grace we should [not] ask anything except the Lord changing our hearts.” I wrote about the desire that predicates our requests: “When we approach the throne of God, we should not desire him to do anything other than change our hearts.” Our primary desire should be that God does a work in us within each prayer because it is in the area of proper desire that we want to hear from God.

      I wholeheartedly acknowledge that Scriptures affirms the act of making our petitions known. In the Lord’s prayer, you are right in pointing to the model of requesting our daily bread. However, that request is predicated on the desire “Your kingdom come, your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven.” (Mt. 6:10) This statement is one of surrender and submission to the will of God as we pray – a conforming of our desires to the desires of the Heavenly Father. Even the expression of “daily” provides a restriction and acknowledgment that God’s current gifts are sufficient for our current needs. When our desire is appropriately focused, our requests will be refined to match the desires of God. Hence, even when we ask for things, our desire is for God to change our hearts if those requests are for anything outside his design and desire for our lives.

      Also, as you pointed out, “man does not live by bread alone.” (Mt 4:4 & Lk 4:4) I would make the case that Jesus is also speaking on a desire focused on God’s sufficient will – conforming our will to his.

      Thanks again for your comment and I look forward to more discussions with you! Blessings!


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